He will feel it from afar and hopefully get over his issues and start talking to you again. and says that I love you but I am confused about you.I cant even think that you said I love u to someone else. I cant forgive myself. He didnt answer yet after two hours.. You need to have a plan of attack. Theyre well and truly out to destroy your relationship. It seems to me that right now you dont have a lot of options. He made air-kisses and kissed me like crazy when he left my flat. I would do anything,I want to press reset and start again! Did I rush? In other words, you still love him because he is a great man. We were both in marriages which we left to be together. Just a few days after our one-year anniversary, he got mad again and blamed me for something that happened way before our relationship even started and started swearing at me, he even told me I was not good enough for him. He liked some other girl while he was still with me and the girl liked him too but he never told her that he reciprocated her feelings. I regullary met him at the gym. I want him back. Especially if shes new and exciting and a fresh start. Yes, this even works if he's ignoring you. I started going out with a couple other guys to try to get over him and one of them tried to take advantage of me and that made me miss my ex even more. We were together 10 years and have a 3 year old daughter together. You can likewise compose his name on paper and hold it. You DONT need him for your sanity, you DONT need him to be complete. We were in the same tuition classes. But there are certain effective things you can do to make him regret leaving you, miss you, and want you back. Finally at the end of the day I just wanted to be polite and told him that I got his messages, Im fine thank you. I was dating this guy for a year and 4 months, long distance due to many factors. Please help. He broke up with me because I told him I had this dream where we were both in bed and once I turned around he was far from me. I know exactly what youre going through. He says he wants to b alone and find himself and Im just here struggling with two kids while he lives the life. To sacrifice your pride and do stupid things to get him back is never a wise move. The only chance you have in getting him back is to stay his friend, without asking him or expecting him for anything, and showing him you are well and you have a busy life and a busy social life. my bf and I were in a relationship for 4 years. The weird thing is that he wants me to be around and stay in touch but due to the big amount of lies he has done over the past 2 years I refused to stay close to him. I do really care about him. And then he started revealing his true nature, he bit me up and swore at me when he got mad. It started off very sweet, he was caring and loving. Try to move on. He found a job, which is what he really wanted to do (and felt like he couldnt do while you were living together), and once he sees and feels that you love him (when you communicate with him in a friendly manner), I believe hell come back. The next day. As you saw for yourself, the no contact works with him, because thats when he understands that he doesnt want to lose you. My son was born in nov. And he told me he wasnt happy with his life blamed me for everything and left me with my 15 month old daughter and my son was only two weeks old. I dont think you can do a no contact when you have a child togetherbut I also think that if she sends you pictures of her looking her best its a definite sign that she is open to you getting back together. We were doing so well. but i dont know why but he seems really happy! But after a couple of days I texted him. Before he broke up with me i would wake up and Skype him from the morning right the way through to the time i went to sleep. Please help me.. Im Emily. "I am seeing a new guy now". and his new GF called me up each day and abused me verbally. This led me to send him a bunch of angry text messages about how I cant stand that he wont talk to me about how he actually feels and that a girl needs to feel special sometimes. Heres a post that may help you in your situation right now, I really hope it does: https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/make-him-fall-in-love/. He says it was hard seeing me once a week. Those things is not valuable to me. We apologize for who we are, we promise to become whoever he wants us to be, just to be back in his arms. After a week when we got back I was overthinking and decided I didnt want to date although I was just scared and slightly hurt him in the process. It has nothing to do with your depression, it has to do with what he is capable and not capable to deal with. Hi so my ex girlfriend ended it with me a month ago. Remember, you cant just randomly text him and expect results. I also think he still loves me even if he claims his feelings arent as strong as they used to be. And he was scared to tell me. he broke up with me and i still cannot fathom that this is my new reality. Learn how your comment data is processed. Our relationship has never been perfect, but he truly made me so happy, i could be myself around him, from the beginning it was hard to get him to commit he would message me once a day, take hours to respond, he was also very in and out of my life (I think he was scared of commitment) However from the minute i met him i knew he was something different, i waited 2 years to be with him as he was in another relationship i didnt interfere i let time run its course. Make Him Regret Cheating Game Plan Part 1- Determine If You Want Him Back Cheating is a big deal. I dont know if he even loved me anymore. I need him to realize that nobody can love him or have patience for him like I still do. If you got back together with him you need to get out and read All the books by Patricia Evans and Lundy Bancroft. And out of nowhere we stared to like each other. Thanks Lisa, then it may also mean that i will loose him.. though i know i want to bring him back.. hello! But just pay attention to your words, because they are important: 1. ive never posted on anything like this before because ive never been in such a heartbroken place. I wish he did it in person. If you want him to miss you hell have to not see you to allow that, right? But it started happening everyday. I know hes not afraid of losing mehe tells me hes sure well stay together because if hes put up with me this long then hell probably stay. i used to do his medical work, presentations and every assignment for him. And I told him that J really loke him and will miss him so much and even though he refuses to touch me I kissed him on his forehead and went to my home. And around a month after that he started flirting with me again and I didnt really want to break up in the first place so I eagerly took him back. But that is a sign they actually just want to be friends but dont want to hurt your feelings but friends might turn into a relationship again. Why does he refuse to talk to me? from the inside) not only for yourself but because the most attractive people are those who love themselves, appreciate themselbes and are truly happy. However, I was reluctant to officially commit to the relationship. Idk. Do I continue to ignore him? Method 1. The father of my child broke up with me when our son was only 4 months old.his now nine months old. We started dating again and it was fantastic we spent so many great times together and made amazing memories. Now, this doesn't mean you have to date someone else, though you certainly can! My ex fiance and I ended things 7 months ago. You told me to go NC for 2 months. Starting this past month, we have to deal with long distance for a year due to college and military. I think that if you already started with no-contact, maybe you should consider the 60-day no contact and see how that works? We were fine? Hang in there and be positive, everything happens for a reason and for good reasons, me and my husband we have been marred for 6 year I always give in to his way and say sorry even when its not my flute just to get him to shut up he has been her tin me emotionally a lot and using secrets I trusted no one alas but him against me , I love him so much but he always calls me names makes me fill like shit and he even het me many times for the last 6 years I am the one who always try to pleas him make him happy attend to his wants and need and he doesnt so any thing hardly but yet he say helovesme war been living like room mates and that all , in the last couple of days he has imparesd me infant for people called me a cunt and a useless bitch and now he is living in his room and locking him self down as it is my fault and its all my mistake I want to divors him but in the same time I love him but I still want to slap the shit out of him I heat the way he is being I have done nothing but support him all my life helped him pay for university new can get a job and what did he ever do for me any way pleas get back to me asap. No contact means, well, no contact. some situations happened and it wasnt even a big thing. He and I both made mistakes and I realise which ones were mine and all I want is to make everything better so that we can have a stronger relationship (if that ever happens). I want him back but dunno if thats even possible. because i cant contact him after no contact period as he blocked me everywhere Otherwise obviously he wont understand whats going on. After he told me that, I told him to have a nice life. we agreed a date, and one day after that he again stopped it. Also, no judgement at all, but dont mess with other ppls husbands. I would try, in your case, the 60-day no contact rule. At first, I was scared because we never been separated ever since we started. I want him to see potential in me & actually give me a chance.. He would text me goodmorning and goodnight daily and mention many past memories together including pictures and videos. I feared losing him. After every one he would want to take a break and I couldnt keep him in a relationship he didnt want to be in. Like in about 15 days we got super attached and talk for hours and hours. Having his child of 1year whom he has never seen. I dont know why April, but I feel like everything will be o.k. So, if you determine that you can't forgive him for what he did then you are going to have a hard time having a successful relationship in the future. He tells me he currently doesnt want to be in a relationship with anyone and just wants to be himself for a while. The more calm, cool, and collected youll be about this, the more hell understand what he stands to lose if he really does this. So Me And This Guy Has Been 2ghtr For 7Months Thing Is . Hes just gone. I think that deep down, you has a reason to insist NOT to commit to him. This came out of no where. All I want to do is call him or text him. I would find myself apologizing for things I knew I didnt do. The 1st 2 hours was good and we were fine. I know this isnt what I deserve but its hard to convince myself. And by posing as just a friend you plant a future seed. I actually dont think his parents is the only reason he left me. He says that he doesnt feel that spark and feels in his heart that it will never be. But he didnt. Since then I have been no contact, but about 6 days in he was trying to contact me all day through texts and calling me, asking how Im doing and begging me to answer.